3 ways to be super confident almost instantly

If you feel stuck in a comfort zone or hesitating, instead going after what you want, there is a solution to it.

There are approaches out there to help people build confidence including repeating affirmation where you tell yourself again and again what you want to believe. Couple of nice tools are cognitive behavioural psychology or Neuro Linguistic Programming, where you reprogram your negative beliefs into positive ones. Another idea is to read some great books out there.

However there are three other approaches which can change your mood almost instantly.

Number 1: Change your focus

The biggest problem that the most people have is that they focus on things that are not working out. When you concentrate on the worst case scenario or what might go wrong, of course you will feel anxious. You literally putting your brain in the same state. Instead you have to start change your focus you remember your achievements, your value and your greatness. You focus of what have you achieved and remind of yourself of all of your greatness.You focus on what would you like to have happen, and you imagine it happening.

Number 2: Change your self talk

Most people are really mean about themselves. They seeing the world and the situations around them in such a way that the self talk is always nasty. ‘I am such an idiot’, ‘I am big looser’, etc. But if someone talk to us the way we talk to our self, we will shut them up really quickly. Now the other way to this situation is not only be positive but to learn to ridicule the negativity and focus on positive stuff that you say to yourself. You can do this by making your inner critical voice sound funny and your positive inner positive voice sound certain. You can also use the word ‘but’ and follow it with a positive comment about yourself. Your brain will focus on what comes after the word ‘but’. So instead of saying ‘you are such an idiot’, like you saying all the time, say it in a really funny voice and then completed by saying ‘but they all love you because you are super hot’

Number 3: Change your perception

Many people try to do something only to find themselves knocked back and stripped of confidence. But your confidence is not what you are wearing, its a feeling that you cultivate through the way in which you think. In psychology there is an area know as attribution. Depending on our attitude, we attribute different explanation to the things that we experience. E.g. When you are negative, you are more likely to see negative situations that they going to last forever and they will be all about you. But when you have positive attitude, is more likely to see the negative situations as being just in that moment and not about you. Changing your attitude, changes your perception of what happens. Failure doesn’t mean that you are the most idiot ever to be in the world, it just means your results are quiet where you want them, but the more information that you can use to create your path. Reinterpreting what you are afraid of, lets you knock out your worries, with a new and profound sense of confidence, self esteem and certainty and how special you really are.

So for super confidence, change your focus, change your self talk and change your perception